“The education system has become culturally cohesive, rewarding and encouraging a certain sort of person: one who is nurturing, collaborative, disciplined, neat, studious, industrious and ambitious. People who don’t fit this cultural ideal respond by disengaging and rebelling.” And who is suffering the most? Boys and active girls.
Read the full article here.
The question is, what can we do? The first thing is to create awareness. Even if your child seems to “fit the bill” it’s not okay to have a school system that is setup for some kids to succeed and some to fail. And the truth is, the children who do fit in, who fit the cultural ideal that has been established, are likely doing it at the expense of their own creativity and personal flair. Some might just be lucky to have all or most of those characteristics, but more likely, they have already learned how to play the game and be what others want them to be, rather than be who they actually are. What?
Yep, that’s what I fear.
I think it’s important to follow the rules and do your work and study hard. But I never think it’s ok to teach our kids to stop being themselves so they can conform to the “ideal” student model.
It’s a new world, and conformity is not going to be what makes our kids succeed. It’s finding their own unique way – the way that considers their unique talents and skills, heartfelt passions, deep desires, inherent gifts, and, simply put, what makes them happy. We cannot create robots and automatons, we must cultivate emotionally intelligent, socially responsible, self-aware, and unique human beings.
Let’s start by talking about this. Let’s open the dialogue. This is NOT a new problem. It’s been going on for years and it keeps getting worse. If we ignore the problem, it won’t change.
Do you want your kid to become part of this system or do you want them to be taught to be loved and valued for their own unique, super amazing, quirky, expressive selves?
Thanks for reading and sharing…it’s important and we can make a difference.
PS This is not just in public schools, it happens in private schools too – quite possibly even worse.