January 29, 2015: Choosing Self-Kindness over Self-Criticism
“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.” ~ C. Joybell C.
If only you could see how awesome you are. If only you could know that other people really love you and internalize that love for yourself. But I know that you are hard on yourself. I know that you believe that if you are critical and have high expectations of yourself, you will fix yourself or be “better.” There might have been a time in your life where it seemed to have helped you – that being willful and demanding of yourself is how you “got successful” or “got through law school.” But I wonder…at what cost? Maybe trying to fix ourselves is the PROBLEM. Perhaps when we drive ourselves hard, we exchange happiness and inner peace for anxiety and pressure. Someday I am going to convince you that you have always been awesome* and there is nothing to fix. *Warning: For those who are non-religious, this is a GodTube video and has references to God but it carries an amazing message for you!