Technology is not the enemy (but stay tuned for a future post on what I think really IS the enemy).
I don’t see technology as the enemy. I think it’s like anything else – yet another place where we can instill our own values and guide our children so that they are safe, well-informed, and prepared to make high quality decisions when they are on their own. The challenge is that most parents aren’t comfortable with their own knowledge of social media and technology so they feel a little stuck. That could be you. I’ll try to help with that in upcoming blogs and videos. What I am sure of is that being either too strict or too permissive will not serve them well, so better for you to get a wee bit educated 😉
Technology is not going anywhere…it’s officially a part of our lives.
I know you know this but you might be still holding out hope that it’s not true – technology is here to stay. If you are a parent who is longing for the days when things were simpler and kids just played outside, you might feel a little bit of judgment around the kids and their devices and Instagram, etc. Judging technology and our kids’ use of it (aka love of aka obsession with it) is only going to create a separation between the two of you – they will think you are clueless and you will think they are addicted. While there could be a bit of truth in both judgments, we will do better if we both try to understand each other. The kids need to understand your discomfort and perhaps even fears. And you need to understand the world they are in – if for no other reason but to protect them from themselves and their poor judgment 😉
Why do we put rules in place if it’s just “the way it is” these days?
We put rules in place because our kids’ pre-frontal cortex (the part of the brain for executive functioning and judgement) is very under-developed and therefore they still need our help and guidance. They literally can’t control impulses and make rapid smart decisions like adults.
What’s your relationship with technology? Comment below!