I’m a communications coach and change management consultant, but really I help parents fix their relationship struggles they have with the men and boys in their lives. It’s so common to be “married with kids” and feel stuck and hopeless. And it’s also so common to not understand your son and feel disconnected from him. But it doesn’t have to be that way. In order to have the relationships we want (and the life we want), we need to learn how to communicate less defensively, connect more intimately and speak up more courageously. (Yes, that’s easier said than done and there are a lot of reasons why it’s super edgy for most of us. I truly get that.)
I’m the mom of two awesome teenage boys. I’m also a community builder, a collaborator, and a technology lover. I feel most alive when I’m riding roller coasters in the front row, public speaking and teaching, laughing with my family and friends, learning and growing, listening to edgy and thought-provoking podcasts, and solving difficult problems.
I’ve been married to my husband for over 15 years but – let me tell you – it’s not been easy. From year 6 through year 13 it was touch and go. We’ve worked our butts off to get where we are. And finally I can say that I am so madly in love with him and have never been happier or more grateful in my life. I’m so incredibly thankful that we decided to stay married in those darkest days 9+ years ago.
So a little more about me – where others see limitations, I see shades of gray and endless possibilities. Where others see problems, I see opportunities to make choices, feel more free and find more fulfillment in your life. I bring a new perspective and can help you see those possibilities in your life. When people like you think they’re at a dead end, trapped or that they’ve “tried everything”…I see territories that have not yet been explored.
I’m an insatiable learner and a deep listener. I ask the questions that others are thinking but are afraid to ask. I say the things that others won’t say. I’ll be your fierce supporter, compassionate challenger and edge pusher.
I work with people who aren’t feeling satisfied with their relationships – mostly with people who think that if their spouse or child would just do xyz, they’d be happier – everything would be better. Let’s be honest here – we all want someone to just fix the other person, right? 🙂 I get it – I was there too. I can’t tell you how many therapy sessions were consumed with me blaming my husband for my misery for the entire 50 minutes.
Married with kids sounds so dreamy, but you know the truth – it can be hard and relentless and stressful. And most people I work with are feeling let down by their marriage and parenting experience, feeling unsure and unfulfilled, and are craving more.
My area of specialty is in working with women who want better relationships with the boys and men in their lives. However, I teach communicating non-defensively to anyone, mostly through workshops.
Who am I to do this work?
I’m an imperfect but high-achieving mom, worked for over a decade in corporate, co-founded a tech startup, was a stay-at-home mom and a working mom, am an entrepreneur and business consultant, was bullied in high school, survived childhood/teenage traumas, am divorced then remarried then almost divorced again (apparently I’m not so good at the romantic relationship thing), am a recovering control freak, self-medicate with sugar, and struggle to prioritize my physical health.
Put simply: I get it.
And if I haven’t been through it, I’ve probably worked with someone who has. We’re all a little messed up in our own way and that messed-upness is what I love to know about you because we connect over our shared humanity not our fake personas.
People have said that I’m naturally a really good communicator. That may or may not be true – but I’ve spent the past 9 years learning everything I can about how to be a better communicator and how to develop greater intimacy in my relationships with my loved ones.
And for those of you who care about this sort of stuff – I’m certified as a life coach and counselor by the Interchange Counseling Institute in San Francisco, a parent coach by the Jai Institute for Parent Coaching, and a holistic health coach by the Institute of Integrative Nutrition® in New York (AADP Certified).
For more on my credentials and professional bio, click here.
For more on my own journey, click here.
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